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Fighting Fires Without Burning Bridges

When conflicts and disputes arise, the majority of companies are ill equipped to deal with them in a timely and efficient way so that escalation and rising costs are the norm.

Fighting Fires

Take the following story as an example:

An IT company struggles to find the right fit for a new Sales Director. In the interim Deirdre the Sales Manager fills in carrying out many of the tasks and attending many of the meetings that the Sales Director would have done.

Deirdre has been with the company for many years and has worked her way up to her current position. After 6 months of filling in for the Sales Director she decides to apply for the post herself but is unsuccessful.

The successful applicant Jamie arrives to start work as the new Sales Director but Deirdre is still fuming at what she feels has been her shabby treatment by the other directors and finds it impossible to create a good working relationship with Jamie.

As time goes by, Deirdre finds much to complain about Jamie’s work and management style and begins to gossip about him to his team undermining and sabotaging his efforts (she still has power and influence over the team). The unrest spreads to the other Directors who begin to question Jamie’s ability.

With a new baby at home and a wife with post-natal depression, Jamie is unable to cope with the strain and is signed off with work-related stress and depression.

Burning Bridges

Here is the beginning of a very typical workplace dispute that could well end up with a claim against the company by one of the aggrieved parties.

Legal fees are only the tip of the iceberg in terms of the cost to business of such disputes. In the scenario above Deirdre, Jamie and their colleagues are already spending time and energy dealing with the conflict as it unfolds. When staff are tied up in managing conflicts or handling disputes, spending time in meetings with lawyers, gathering evidence and clarifying facts, their personal value-add to the company will be substantially reduced. Hidden costs of disputes include:

  • Lost productivity – the value of lost management time and lost business opportunities
  • Relationship – the value of lost or damaged relationships
  • Health – costs related to stress and the impact on long-term health

Adversarial Approach

Our instinctive reaction to conflict is to see it as a threat. Any conflict, that is anything that threatens our needs and interests – our values, attitudes and beliefs, is reacted to as if it were an immediate threat to our survival.

A social threat is treated in same way as a physical threat.

So Deirdre and Jamie are both reacting to the perceived threat to their own survival at work.

The adversarial approach to relationships identified by the Tomorrow’s Company Inquiry as one of the KEY BEHAVIOURS preventing companies from performing at their optimum level may manifest itself as

  • Silence – not speaking to one another
  • Talking behind someone’s back – gossip and innuendo
  • Withholding information
  • Sabotage
  • Fighting – verbal or physical

Unless the organisation and the individuals concerned have knowledge of and access to a better way of dealing with conflicts and disputes they will end up in a spiral of destructive behaviours based on the mistaken concept of right versus wrong.

Conflict is Normal

Conflict is quite simply a process. It is the process of expressing dissatisfaction, disagreement or unmet expectations – someone or some group is unhappy with someone else or something else.

Dissatisfaction can arise from multiple factors – differing expectations, competing goals, conflicting interests, confusing communications or unsatisfactory relationships.

In sabotaging Jamie’s authority with his team and co-directors, Deirdre is simply expressing her dissatisfaction with the way she has been treated and the failure of management to address her concerns. An everyday occurrence YES – but one that has a huge price tag if it is not handled well.

Disputes are the end point of a chain of events – the product or outcome of an unresolved conflict and are more likely to occur when people ignore the warning signs that things are going wrong.

Conflicts and disputes are unavoidable in business and in many cases provide a useful catalyst to change. Awareness that relationships are strained or working practices are unpopular, can provide critical information to enable a company to re-evaluate its position and re-align its thinking and actions.

Window of Opportunity

If organisations can pay attention to the warning signs and catch conflict at an early stage before relationships have broken down and while dialogue is still a possibility, they can save enormous costs and build considerable value.

By achieving earlier resolution of conflicts and disputes that would otherwise have incurred the costs of formal grievance procedures or litigation, businesses can save ££££ in wasted management time, damaged relationships, lost productivity and legal fees.

Staying Ahead of the Game

Companies that understand the value-added potential of Fighting Fires without Burning Bridges by finding ways to manage conflicts and resolve disputes at a much earlier stage, will not only save money and enhance relationships but will be among the winners of the 21st century. ©JaneGunn 2015

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